Every first without them, before it catches you off guard.
The first year after a loss is full of days that ambush you. Some you can see coming, like their birthday or the first holiday. Others you can’t, like a quiet Friday night or cooking dinner for one.
Surviving the Firsts walks through 50 of them, one at a time. Each one tells you what to expect, gives you permission to handle it your own way, and offers a short reflection so you can decide what you actually want, rather than what you think you’re supposed to do.
A free page from inside Surviving the Firsts
Their birthday
A day, not a test
There's no correct way to spend this day. Talk about them all day, or not at all. Light a candle, or don't. Whatever you choose, it is not a referendum on how much you loved them.
Some people write a letter to the person, or do one thing that person loved. Both, or neither, are fine.
Nothing you type here is saved or sent. In the full app, your writing saves privately to your account.
50 firsts, including
Every one written as specifically as the sample above.
- The first Friday night with no plan
- Cooking dinner for one
- The anniversary of the loss
- The holiday they always hosted or loved
- Hearing 'their' song unexpectedly
- Almost calling them out of habit
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